Monday, November 8, 2010

Day 312: My dear friend Joe Potter

You can be moving right along, eating ice cream, singing songs and making sweet love to your man.

Then your friend Joe Potter moves on in a permanent way. And you wonder why. And how. And why again.

Joe graduated with me when we got our Master's degrees at the University of Santa Monica (USM). He was the kind of guy that smiled with his whole face. He was an intense hugger. He listened with a focus that made me feel heard. And his default was love.

He moved on from this world on his own accord the other day. Since then, I've found myself listening to people but only hearing Joe Joe Joe Joe Joe. People have asked how I am and the first thing I want to say is Joe Joe Joe Joe Joe. And as I walk around town, I rest on more steps along the way to wait for the Joe Joe Joe Joe Joe drum roll to subside.

This is one of those moments in life when time takes over. When we must rely on time to do what it will because we can't figure it out on our own in the moment. That said, all the Whys and What Fors are inane questions that can never really be answered now or ever anyway. But at least with time, we'll stop asking so often.

See you again someday, Joe. 

Courtesy of the generous Dror Amir.

Details of his memorial service, courtesy of USM:

A Memorial Service will be held at the University at 2101 Wilshire Blvd in Santa Monica on Thursday, November 11 from 7:00-9:00 p.m. All are welcome to come together in Loving and in celebration of Joe's life. Parking is available at the Union Bank Parking Garage (2001 Wilshire Blvd.) beginning at 6:15 p.m. for $3.

A fund in Joe's memory has been established at USM. All donations made to this fund will go towards the Tuition Assistance Loan Program, with the vision of collecting a minimum $5,000, which will provide for a heart in Joe's name on the USM Lobby Donor wall. Graduates, students, or friends of USM who would like to make a donation to this fund can send it to the University of Santa Monica, Attn: Joe Potter Memorial Fund.

For more information, please contact:
University of Santa Monica | 2107 Wilshire Boulevard, Santa Monica, CA 90403
(310) 829-7402 |


  1. Aw, Janice. I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a beautiful tribute to your friend--I believe he sees and hears your words and they move him. I know they move me.

  2. All you have to do, sweet Janice, is close your eyes and you will always see Joe's smile. May your friend rest in peace.
    P.s. Gotta love that "whole-face" smile ;-)
    Thinking of you....

  3. Thank you Janice. Thank you Joe. Blessings.

  4. I'm so sorry, Janice. It's so hard to make sense of things like this. Lovely post in his honor.

  5. Thinking of you Janice with peace on this day of Joe's Memorial Service...a beautiful video portrait of your friend..."mahalo ke akua"

  6. Thanking of you Blog Mama...xox

  7. I do believe I just wrote "Thanking" instead of "Thinking"... haha...


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